I have been married for 8 year to my husband with whom I have 2 children with. This begs the question that has been plaguing me for a while; at this current time do I have a spouse or a roommate. Do we still truly love each other or have we become so stagnant in our relationship that it no longer matters? It’s not all bad of course, he is my best friend who I tell my whole day to. We do have a good time together and laugh at ourselves in goofy moments, but where’s the spark that brought us together? Where’s the romance? Is the fire still there, or did it go out? I wanna believe that the embers are smoldering, just waiting for ignition (oh god now I sound like a romance novel), but I still believe.
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Our son has taken up residence in our King sized bed and while this is good for him, it sucks for any alone time we want to have. Then again, we tend to go to bed at different times, so I think that point is moot. Our rut has begun, and the 5 year old is firmly located in between. This picture is just one in a million, I seriously can’t make this up…
Can you schedule sex? Can you put that in your calendar and receive a pop up alert? Of course you can, but would you? If you schedule sex, does that make it an appointment or actual “special” time with your partner? It is rather an interesting concept though. I read an article written by Brittany Gibbons about having sex every day for a year, and I have to say, a huge bow to them. You can reference her article here: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brittany-gibbons/i-had-sex-every-day-for-a-year_b_3790748.html
I just don’t know if I have it in me. No, I’m not a prude, just busy, tired, overstressed, the list goes on, and yes a bit lazy and complacent in my marriage. I don’t mind chores, cleaning has to be done, but sex, I just don’t knowif I can see that as a chore. Regardless, I think just talking about it reminds me that we haven’t had sex in a month. Oh my god, has it been that long? I give it to Brittany, and maybe that is something I might try. Who knows, maybe it does work. If you try it, let me know your thoughts.
We have a giant TV in our living room, and a much smaller one in the bedroom. As I sit here and type this article, I am sitting and watching the big TV and my husband is watching his preferred show on the smaller one in our room. This is an everyday occurrence and something we have just gotten used to. I must say though that our DVR is full of different stuff that each likes and when we are free (okay they are asleep) from children and obligations, I just want to veg in front of the TV and watch me some Chrisley knows best. Oh and I have to say, the quiet during the show is a drug, literally, I totally crave it. However, in the context of this article, it’s not a great thing.
When people have a problem such as alcoholism, they always say that they first step is to realize that you have a problem. So, with that thought, I know there’s an issue, and knowing this is the first step to changing it.
People like lists so here’s one:
1. Determine the problem. Lack of Sex, romance and all in between
2. Why do we have a problem? I think we as people get into a routine. Routines are hard to get out of, so we have to figure out how to change them. At this point, I would say that maybe schedule in date nights with each other. Hire a baby sitter, go out, and find that spark that brought you together again. I still have to make this step, but as this will be an ongoing article, I will let you know what this step brings…
Until next time…